The terms 'gender' and 'sex' are not interchangeable.
Commonly, our gender (e.g. boy or girl) is assigned to us at birth, by birth parents and practitioners, according to our biological sex e.g male, female, or intersex.
'Queer' is a contentious term. Historically it has been a pejorative term. It was used to express prejudice and discriminate (often with violence) against the LGB community. The negative connotations remain so for many, so we should be respectfully mindful of this.
At QTIP 'queer' or 'genderqueer' is (and has only ever been) used to describe a person's self-assigned gender identity.
Queer describes a gender identity that is not cis. Queer identity is a non-conforming gender identity which includes e.g. non-binary, genderfluid, agender.
Most People Are Cis: Some People Are Trans.
Cisgender: For the majority of people, the gender they were assigned at birth is congruent with their gender identity. Most people are cis.
Transgender: For a minority of people, the gender they were assigned at birth is incongruent with their gender identity. This can be described as a non-conforming gender identity [GNC]. Trans people will often transition to their identified gender. Some people are trans.
To have a trans- gender identity is normal.
In their 'School Report 2017' Stonewall confirmed alarming statistics for trans pupils in particular:
We know teachers care, but many are simply not equipped to deal effectively with what can be a conflicting, complex and highly sensitive issue that demands urgent attention.
'As we look ahead, we must keep sight of our shared mission: to create a world where every young person can grow up happy, healthy and supported to reach their full potential. While much has changed over the past decade, it is clear we cannot be complacent in the fight for equality. So let’s reflect on what’s been achieved, establish what needs to be done, and work together to create a world where every young person can be themselves.' Ruth Hunt, Stonewall - 2017.
The following links are publicly available documents published online by trusted organisations.
Jake Graf's short film Listen was released in November 2018. It is a brief but punchy comment from the perspective of young people. Its title is self explanatory. It is essential viewing for anyone who works with children and young people.